Many things are lost for the want of Asking
For those who still remember the yesteryear movies where the lead actor would fall in love with the lead actress only to get separated by the vicious methods adopted by the villain. While in some cases the story would twist and turn for a happy ending but in many it would take a lot of pains and several years before they would realize that they lost a good time only trying to tell each other that they loved each other. Unfortunately, those days, technology was insignificant and could not help them in bridging the gap caused by the villain or the situation.
Such scenes in this era should have been reduced as the communication has been augmented by technology like never before. However in real life, we see that inspite of all the technological advancement this issue persists as it roots out of the basic human behavior.
There was a story about a group of professional diver who was from Haryana in India and his lead diver was a British national. The Indian guy had a lot of issues in understanding the leader, but he did rarely ask back in case of doubt as his belief was that he would be able to manage. He soon died in an accident doing exactly what the leader was asking them not to do.
Communication plays a key role in our success. However, the core of this communication is not “English Language” but understanding what other wants to communicate irrespective of any language being used. Research done by several individuals and groups come with similar finding that understanding a lecture is never beyond sixty percent in most of the cases. It is only revision and reading that reinforces the learning. The difference in level of understanding depends on how much aware the listener is about the subject and the ecosystem. This is the reason that learned people are able to learn more and faster while those who have difficulty in their academics, mostly, continue to struggle.
Success depends on several factors, but effective communication is one of the most important of them. The effectiveness come out from the fact that we are questioning and trying to get more aware. Successes come from the fact that we are clear in our demands and clearly communicate to the other person.
Remember, an assuming wife would find very difficult to remain happy with her husband because her wishes remain a subject of interpretation and judgment for her husband. In most cases her wishes would never materialize leaving a lot of scope for dispute and unhappiness. On the other hand, a wife who spells out her wants and likes clearly would be far happier.
This principle applies to our work, our families and friends and any other place where we have to communicate.
Let us not loose any more for the want of asking. Keep asking.