Growing With Happiness – Finding The Right Balance
Everyone wants to grow in life beyond the number of years one adds in their birthdays. Growth however has different meaning for everyone and it is important to understand the real meaning of growth.
A learned sage whose lecture I was attending asked everyone sitting around ‘Who is the real rich person? The question stumped several of the people including me. All along, I have been thinking that a rich person by default would have big bank balance and a secure future. After listening to almost similar answers in line of my thinking, the sage gave his view.
‘A rich person is the one, who does not need more of anything and is happy with whatever they have.’ It took some time for us understand the depth of this statement, but when it finally dawned upon me, I could not resist thanking the old man for giving such a wisdom.
‘Growth’, the way world sees is always in terms of social status, wealth and increase in influence of an individual. In reality, pursuit of this growth brings hosts of other problems that take away our mental peace and happiness. Our entire life we want more of everything to the level of criminal conduct. This only adds to our unhappiness and earns us enemies.
I have myself been in this rat race for very long, always trying to find opportunities, working very hard; ignoring family needs because of my career and at times loosing out golden moments of my life which I desperately miss now. I remember those times when festivals were most tense times for me. Buying so many things used to upset my entire budget and I had no option but to compensate the extra spend by cutting down on my basic needs like a new show or a new pair of clothes which I needed most. I ignored my health by skipping my food while at work and worked at nights to earn more money. Unfortunately, after all the hard work, money I needed did not come.
Growth is a factor of several elements, which we need to balance well for the real growth to happen. It starts with eliminating the desire of becoming rich or dreaming of a material outcome.
It is primary that we understand as to what do we want to be in life. What would make us happy? What will give a good sleep? What will make us get a sense of achievement and pride? Asking easy questions to ourselves till such time we get their answers.
Once we know our vision and goal, the next step is to start working in stages to achieve them. It is important to realize that the outcome of wealth is always based on the job we do. If we do not like and enjoy the work we are doing, the wealth creation process would cease quickly. Therefore it is not the material outcome but the work we enjoy would make us grow and create desired wealth.
Finally, keeping physically and mentally healthy helps us do our work better and that cannot be ignored if we want to be happy and grow in our life better than most of the people around us.