Growing With Happiness – Finding The Right Balance


Everyone wants to grow in life beyond the number of years one adds in their birthdays. Growth however has different meaning for everyone and it is important to understand the real meaning of growth.

A learned sage whose lecture I was attending asked everyone sitting around ‘Who is the real rich person? The question stumped several of the people including me. All along, I have been thinking that a rich person by default would have big bank balance and a secure future. After listening to almost similar answers in line of my thinking, the sage gave his view.

‘A rich person is the one, who does not need more of anything and is happy with whatever they have.’ It took some time for us understand the depth of this statement, but when it finally dawned upon me, I could not resist thanking the old man for giving such a wisdom.

‘Growth’, the way world sees is always in terms of social status, wealth and increase in influence of an individual. In reality, pursuit of this growth brings hosts of other problems that take away our mental peace and happiness. Our entire life we want more of everything to the level of criminal conduct. This only adds to our unhappiness and earns us enemies.

I have myself been in this rat race for very long, always trying to find opportunities, working very hard; ignoring family needs because of my career and at times loosing out golden moments of my life which I desperately miss now. I remember those times when festivals were most tense times for me. Buying so many things used to upset my entire budget and I had no option but to compensate the extra spend by cutting down on my basic needs like a new show or a new pair of clothes which I needed most. I ignored my health by skipping my food while at work and worked at nights to earn more money. Unfortunately, after all the hard work, money I needed did not come.

Growth is a factor of several elements, which we need to balance well for the real growth to happen. It starts with eliminating the desire of becoming rich or dreaming of a material outcome.
It is primary that we understand as to what do we want to be in life. What would make us happy? What will give a good sleep? What will make us get a sense of achievement and pride? Asking easy questions to ourselves till such time we get their answers.
Once we know our vision and goal, the next step is to start working in stages to achieve them. It is important to realize that the outcome of wealth is always based on the job we do. If we do not like and enjoy the work we are doing, the wealth creation process would cease quickly. Therefore it is not the material outcome but the work we enjoy would make us grow and create desired wealth.

Finally, keeping physically and mentally healthy helps us do our work better and that cannot be ignored if we want to be happy and grow in our life better than most of the people around us.

Alok Kumar

Alok Kumar is Managing Partner of SRKay Consulting group, a private equity company, nurturing innovative ventures. Alok also serves on the board of ICCL (Indian Clearing Corporation Limited - A subsidiary of BSE- Bombay Stock Exchange) as an external advisor for technology and information security. Prior to this, Alok had been Managing Director of Sears IT & Management Services India Private Limited (SHI) since its inception in December 2009 and served in the same position till very recently. Having been in senior IT management positions in Fortune 500 companies, Alok has won several national and international awards. Alok is instrumental in planning and setting up SHI and thereafter growing it to a multi-locational thousand-plus people organization. Over the last five years, with his strategic vision, Alok helped SHI grow roots in India, develop and support technology applications and infrastructure across core mainframe, cutting edge e-Commerce and big data technologies. With his unique people-oriented transformational leadership style, Alok turned SHI into one of the most valued investments of Sears, garnering great ROIs, and creating value much beyond cost arbitrage. Under his tutelage, SHI has filed two patents and is recognized widely for its best practices in various areas, the latter, currently featured in Indian Institute of Management (IIM) case studies. SHI also became a CMMI Level 3, PCMM Level 3, and ISO 20000 certified organization. Alok is a widely acclaimed corporate leader in India today. He regularly participates and leads various forums as a keynote speaker and is an author of several books in different genres. Alok has several awards to his credit. He is particularly known in the industry for his people management skills and innovative ideas in improving the productivity of employees through unique people practices. He has been credited with the following industry awards: ¬ Emerging Leader of the Year award 2013 by ¬ Game Changer CEO of the Year 2013 (SHRM) ¬ CIO 100 - The Bold CIOs - 2008 (Reliance Infosolutions) ¬ CIO - Ones to Watch Award 2008 (Reliance Industries) ¬ Extended Manager Award - CIOL 2004 (Tata Teleservices) As an able leader of SHI, Alok got SHI recognized widely in the industry with the following several awards: ¬ CII Award for HR Best Practices in 2014 ¬ Global Excellence in Outsourcing Award - AIOP (Phoenix 2013) ¬ IT Innovation Award (Design & Engineering) - Computer Society of India 2012 ¬ Golden Company of the Year - Economic Times 2011-12 ¬ 7th Employer Branding Awards - World HRD Congress (Mumbai, India) 2013: • ‘Asia’s Best Employer’ Award • ‘Best HR Strategy’ in line with business • HR Leadership Award • Talent Management Award by Bloomberg TV India ¬ Employer Branding Awards - World HRD Congress (Singapore, Asia) 2013: • 7th rank in ‘Asia’s Best Employer’ award • Award for ‘Best HR Strategy’ in line with the business • HR Leadership Award Other recognitions: Alok had served on the distinguished panel of NASSCOM's GIC (Global In-house Centers) National Council members. The council members play a key role in major initiatives of the industry and include the torch bearers of IT industry as panel members. Books and Papers: Alok is an established author, with three books to his credit. Alok’s third and latest book, a novel, “The Spy from Unaula” is a 2015 publication. A handwriting analysis enthusiast, Alok collaborated with his wife Nandani on the book, “Handwriting Speaks” in 2006. “Value Sourcing – Future of IT Outsourcing” was co-authored with Keith Sherwell (currently CIO, Altice USA) and was released in 2013. Alok also researched and published two whitepapers: a. “Creating next generation captives” talks about the best practices that are helping generate higher value from the IT company captives.

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  1. Umesh Rajmane says:

    Awesome article. To a certain extent I had realized the pain of being in the rat race, but this article has well elaborated the context and situational compromises I have been doing with my family and parents.

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